Why should our lives have rules?
An exposure into some mind-blowing rules that will set your life to a great accomplishment.
Hello People of God, how is your sanity in this trying time? I just want you to keep enjoying your life and don't give up on our dear country, we own the future!.
Confession
I haven't been this clueless when choosing a book to discuss before. I was considering many factors before concluding that life still presents so many things to us, why not discuss about life itself. That led me to 12 Rules of Life by Jordan Peterson.
Many times, humans don't like rules. I remember those days I simply wait for rules only to break them (I'm now very gentle). We don't want to believe anything depends on rule even though we know rules are meant to be guidance and meant to assist us. We just really don't want restriction.
Nonetheless, it is relatively important that certain rules guide us at certain time. This life is too volatile not to have few rules to guide us. This book mention only twelve rules that cut across aspects of our lives like family, work, relationship, well-being, career, and maybe faith too. Actually, they all work for any circumstance. That's why I like those rules.
I selected just three to discuss (I'd share the whole of the rules downstairs) because those three serves us well.
Firstly: Compare yourself to who you are yesterday and not to who someone is today (sips garri water). They say comparison is the thief of joy but I think it actually depend on what you're comparing yourself to. What joy is it stealing if I'm comparing myself (present) with myself (past). It only becomes toxic when you tend to compare yourself with other people. The author established in between the line that life gets better and success gets easier when you evaluate your past to improve your present. Even if it's a minute improvement, you're still on track because 0.1 * 30 = 3 while 0 * 30 = 0. Little progress counts in the long run.
Also, the Social Media has made it very possible to always meet our superior day by day. There's always somebody better than you and you will see them daily on social media or anywhere else. When you focus on that, it might lead to self doubt and even truncate your progress such that, you will lose interest finally. What is most important to consider for comparison is your past. You sure are not the same as you were last week, Cheers!
Another rule is: Set your house in order before you criticize the world. The author is a psychologist and he must have easily discovered that criticism is very common in people. It is very easy to criticize anything but it should not be our priority and not even be our habit. Rather, our own selves need a lot of improvement and adjustment, we should take care of that first.
In criticism anyway (that's if you must criticize), the action is what you should criticize and not the doer. Nonetheless, everybody lacks the moral justification to criticize an action that he is still guilty of. It makes no sense to watch after others flaw when you have many leakages too, especially of the same flavour as the other person.
Finally: Assume that the person you're listening to might know something you don't know. How marvelous is God! I would have lost the opportunity of knowing how to open my office window blind if I didn't listen to my Boss's son. I only manage the small illumination from the bulb and didn't know the window blind conceal illumination from the Most-high. It was the day he came visiting that he explained.
Regardless of age and status of any speaker, it is vital to just listen with rapt attention and with the intention to learn from the speaker. Knowledge and wisdom flow in speeches. Even if you didn't get anything to learn, you'd learn how not to say something.
I don't want this newsletter to be too long. It's cool I stop here. I just want you to take this dearly and maybe tell your friends too. More importantly, start actioning them.
The 12 Rules are:
1. Stand up straight with your shoulders back
2. Treat yourself like someone you're responsible for helping
3. Make friends with people who want the best for you
4. Compare yourself to who you are yesterday not to who someone is today
5. Do not let your children do something that will make you dislike them
6. Set your house in order before you criticize the world
7. Pursue what is meaningful (not what is expedient)
8. Tell the truth or at least don't lie
9. Assume the person you're listening to might know something you don't know.
10. Be precise in your speech
11. Do not bother your children when they are skateboarding
12. Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street
Book Recommendation:
The 5AM Club by Robin Sharma
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I know right! It's just so easy for us to criticize others than taking care of our own selves first 😢😢. Happiness is keyyyyy....Compare your present to your past, you would surely notice some form of improvement.
This is a really nice piece. Gracias!
How can I get this book for reading ?