Preparing for the storm of life; the tools you need
5 tools to help you find courage, creativity and will power...
From the bottom of my heart, I want to thank you for opening this mail. I’ve been thinking about reducing the frequency of the letter because of my recent schedule change but I don’t want to do that. Hence, I got myself an accountability partner. She reviews my schedule, prompts me, and stays on my neck. I was just returning from work when her message came in, so I promised that I’d dedicate my next few minutes to this.
How have you been? I know it’s a trying time, especially for Nigerian undergraduate students. We all shall triumph!
Books written by psychologists, psychotherapists, psychiatrists, or all those guys that have things to do with one’s mind and brain are always unrivaled. In terms of richness of contents and provision of solutions, they are always the best. The Tools was written by 2 of such people, Barry Michels and Phil Stutz. The book focuses on how we must not only change our attitudes when dealing with our problems but also must change our behaviors. Before you get confused, attitude involves the mind's predisposition to certain ideas, values, people, etc.; behavior relates to the actual expression of feelings, actions, or inaction anyhow it can be expressed.
The book is designed to help individuals overcome their fears, insecurities, and problems in everyday situations. The Authors gave 5 tools to help one to Find Courage, Creativity, and Willpower and also Inspires one to live life in a forward motion. With these “tools”, we learn to find courage, turn pain into positive action, create focus, develop discipline, and embrace - and express - ourselves fully. The tools in this book provide a set of principles to combat anxiety and cultivate confidence. Learning how to use these tools can genuinely transform your life!
TOOL 1 – Reversal of Desire
This tool is to be used when avoiding something out of fear of rejection or fear of being hurt. Most times, you won’t want to take any action because you’re afraid that you might go through a lot of pain and be rejected. Here, the authors asked you to picture the worst-case scenario and convince yourself that you desire pain to get to your goals. sheybi las las, what will be will be. This tool gives you the Power of Forward Motion
TOOL 2 – Action Love
Sometimes you feel angry, resentful of injustice, or maybe when you’re confronting a difficult person, this is the tool you need. You kill people with love. Focus on the love all around you and transmit the love to all around you. When you share or action love, you get over your task or the difficulty in the person you’re facing. It also will tame your anger.
TOOL 3 – Inner Authority
When you’re facing insecurity, low self-esteem, or you lack courage, you just have to take charge of your inner you. Self-expression will make you develop the courage to surmount low self-esteem. I will suggest you read more about this.
TOOL 4 – The Grateful Flow
Count your blessings and heal your worries. Whenever you’re filled with worries and negative thoughts, it is proven that recounting your blessings and listing what you’re grateful for you to perform better.
TOOL 5 – Jeopardy
When you are returning to your old ways, you are not meeting your deadline and you are losing focus, calm down and picture yourself running out of time to live. Picture yourself breathing your last and see your deadline as important to achieve before death. Of course, death can be anytime.
Finally, I believe that these tools can work if they are applied consistently. However, I do think that it is difficult to keep on applying them. The last tool is the one that helps you to continue applying all the others.
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